You clearly understand who you are as a partner or who you would be if you weren't single. You might even be clear about who you are as a friend, aunt/uncle, sister/brother.
But exactly who are you as your standalone person? You have no clue.
Your sense of self is essentially the characteristics that define you: your values, your likes and dislikes, your capabilities, your personality traits.
Having a weak sense of self can mean that you're more likely to be involved in a codependent relationship.
Codependents become ultimately or heavily dependent on their partner and the relationship to define their sense of self, happiness and overall well-being. The relationship becomes the sole meaning of their life.
You live authentically when you have a clear sense of who you are.
You'll improve your emotional well-being, break free of your toxic behaviours (i.e. people-pleasing), and develop healthy platonic and romantic relationships.
This post begins as a series of 10 questions, with supporting information to help you answer them. You'll be able to respond to some of these questions right away, and others will take you days, weeks, or even months to answer, and that's okay.
While it's not necessary, you might find that it helps if you have a journal where you can write your answers.